What the heck does that even mean, you ask? Not to sound like a Grinch, but I’m about ready for all of this holiday crap to be over. For most of you, the holidays are a time of year for spending with family. Literally every movie, commercial, and catchy holiday song reminds us of that. But when you are single (or self-partnered, as I’m now saying – thanks, Emma Watson), all of that can feel like a giant reminder of what you don’t have, how you don’t fit in, and how you may not even be worthy of love anyway (why has it eluded you for so long?). Being single during the holidays pretty much sucks. But it doesn’t have to suck so hard.
I’ve approached pretty much every holiday season of my love-less past by avoiding those reminders. But this year on November 2nd, I made a promise to myself. Instead of focusing on what I didn’t have, I was going to be grateful for what I did, and instead of wallowing in self-pity, I was going to find elements of the holiday season that aligned with the things I loved, and embrace them. Like the opportunity to wear cute outfits, for example.
So for my office holiday party, I took that opportunity and went all-out. I snapped a few pics outside my friend Joel’s bar, Whippoorwill, while my co-workers stared at me wondering “what is the weird girl doing now?”. This outfit made me happy. It’s one of the few things (besides Disney trips with my bestie) that’s brought me a little joy this holiday season. So find that thing that you love, and embrace it, and forget about what everyone else is doing. (Most of them are faking it anyway.)
I totally get it. It’s hard being single during the holidays. When your mailbox is bombarded with poetic family postcards from everyone you know, all of whom have seemingly found “that thing” that has eluded you your entire life. It can be really difficult not to draw comparisons. But I’m here to tell you that you’re not alone. You are worthy of love. And not “everyone” has a perfect family life. So until those stars align, and the divine timing of the Universe, God, The Force or whatever spiritual being you believe in brings you the thing you deserve, know I’m over here in my little corner, rooting for you.