One of the benefits of having a best friend who’s from New Orleans is spontaneous road trips to the Crescent City. So when we both had a long weekend for Memorial Day, we packed up the car and the pup and headed out on the 10-hour-ish drive from Orlando.
Recently I shared a photo on Instagram that a friend took of me at Typhoon Lagoon for a special event Disney threw for their Gold & Platinum Passholders. In the photo I was wearing a swimsuit (because, duh, water park) and it was captioned, “Not a size 2 and in a swimsuit.” I didn’t even think twice about sharing a photo of myself in a swimsuit publicly, because, to me, it wasn’t a big deal. At least a thousand people had seen me in that swimsuit IRL at Typhoon Lagoon, and quite frankly, I felt downright gorgeous in that suit.
A few days later, a woman I know in real life who had seen the post mentioned to me how “brave it was” of me to “post a photo in a swimsuit.” It caught me so off guard that I just ignored it and changed the subject. How sad it is that we live in a culture where women are so disgusted by their own bodies that another woman wearing a bathing suit publicly is considered “brave.” To me it hadn’t been an act of bravery, I hadn’t even thought twice about it. Single moms are brave. Women who re-live every detail of their rape in a trial so their rapist goes to prison are brave. Females who enlist in the male-dominated military are brave. Those are just some major examples; women show bravery every day in small ways too. Wearing a bathing suit should not be considered one of them.
We live in a society where size 2 models are splashed across the glossy pages of fashion magazines, wearing clothes that seem to have been made to fit only their bodies. Eventually size 2 became too large for some, so a size zero was added to the mix. ZERO. Literally NOTHING THERE.
The fashion industry has contributed to our warped perception of ourselves so much so that going into a fitting room at Zara used to send me off into a full-fledged anxiety attack, when the things that looked amazing on the waif model on their website hung in a less than visually pleasing way on my own body – until I learned the following phrase: “This just isn’t cut for me.” BOOM. Once I let this little tidbit sink in, it took all the fault off my own body and put it onto the garment. There was nothing wrong with my body, I was simply trying on a garment that was cut for a different body type.
If we spent more time learning about dressing for our body types and less time pointing out the perceived “flaws” on ourselves, imagine what could happen. These days, thanks to companies like Modcloth, flattering clothing for curvy women, fuller figures, and larger busted women is readily available. There are more and more styles being produced by designers and companies who care deeply about helping real women feel confident in their clothing and in their own skin. It took me a long time and lot of fitting rooms to learn what types of clothing flatter my figure – and which don’t. When I spotted aforementioned swimsuit on the ASOS website (another company that carries a full range of sizes), I hit “add to cart” so fast I almost broke my finger. And when I pulled it out of its plastic shipping bag and tried it on, I felt so glamourous I wanted to wear it around the house – an experience I had NEVER had trying on swimwear before. So ladies – love what you have. There’s nothing wrong with you. And somewhere in the fashion-atmosphere there is even a bathing suit you will feel powerful in. Trust me.
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When I started this blog I told myself I was not going to be one of those people who apologizes for not blogging as often as one thinks they should, particularly since currently I am working under the assumption that only like four of you are actually reading it right now. I started this post the day after Dapper Day, like a kid excited to share her Christmas presents, and now here it is two weeks later and the images are still sitting here wordless.
#targetdoesitagain. Someone tell Flora & Merryweather to stop bickering already because I found a dress that makes them both happy! I was going to forgo a new Easter dress this past weekend due to the recent closet-cleaning-out and the fact that Miss Stella needs her teeth cleaned (can someone figure out a less expensive way to clean a dog’s teeth, please), but then I stumbled across this $29 number at Target, on sale for $25.
When you’re going to be at the park all day it’s good to come prepared. I am notorious for leaving my house forgetting at least one thing I need for the day (just ask my friend Sarah who has had to turn around the car twenty feet out of the driveway more times than I can count). In order to help aleviate the stress of packing a bag each time we go, I keep a park bag packed with basics that I can grab and go.